The mythology of love

Situation

Sometimes we do find ourselves in situations where others are not responding to the love we are giving. Our feelings seem to hit a rock or a wall and don't bounce back as respect and understanding.

Having the habit of 'give and take' deep instilled in our consciousness, the absence of any feedback leaves us insecure and ... we decide to go to other side of complaining and blaming; the side of instant or long-term hate: "Am I not worth it?..." "you are supposed to..." "you had to..." "I have the right..." "you show no respect...  you have become a bit senseless these days..."

True respect and true love are both very elevated states of consciousness and cannot be achieved in any external way. It is impossible to pursue or inspire someone's respect even if this someone is your self... you may achieve it but it won't last for long. On the other hand a high state of consciousness is not something out of reach... this is our eternal right and not the forced respect from others.

We need to experience a shift of consciousness inside our selves first if we want to see it around us.

The habit of fear

In our way to completeness, we sometimes live with fear which sometimes may be obvious and other times it remains well hidden behind innocent and quite logical expressions… words that repeat, such as: 'right' 'unfair' 'all' 'them' 'noone' 'honestly' 'always' 'never' 'realistically', are used when we want to avoid our responsibility, so we say something while we mean and feel something else.

The expressions that follow may be appropriate, true and fair enough when we are using them with honesty, but our fear-based motives hide many times what we really mean.

Fortunately for us and for the others around us, life is destined to uncover and expose our fears in a very natural way…life is destined to expose them to the light.

Type of Fears and the Expressions we use

Fear of the unknown

"let's be sensible... many things can happen… look what happened to Michael..." "...it takes time" ....."we must plan everything well  and be very thorough... otherwise everything will  just be up in the air...", "I don't function that way"

Fear of solitude

"we all need someone...", "I can't leave her, we've been through so many things...",
"a relationship is something that is alive, every real relationship has some tension; it's normal; let us be realistic"
Thus we sustain relationships based on fear of losing and we end up filling ourselves with possessiveness, codependency and finally with sorrow...:
"...which is something normal and it sometimes makes things interesting..." we admit many times to our friends...

Fear of 'others' or of cooperation with others

"they are not fond of me; I'm sure... you should see how they were looking at me the other day..."
"it's always more effective to cooperate with one person, maximum..." "I'm more effective when I'm on my own..."