Detached Observer

Where the intellect is free from assumptions 
the right decisions are made

Situation
As soon as we are faced with a situation we directly correlate it to some previous incident and make assumptions based on our past experiences about the situations or the people involved. Such assumptions sometimes lead us to wrong decisions.

Soulution
The solution lies in detaching ourselves from our past experiences. Of course we have to learn from the experiences of our past, but we also need to be open to look at the situation in a new way. Such detachment will enable us to make the right decision.

Detachment is a special quality of the human soul. It activates the faculty of the intellect which is connected to judgment, discernment and decision making. The intellect is empowered through pause, silence, a self respecting dialogue with the self or through reflection, and thus all the clarity that is needed is released.

Exercise
Today, just before a "prefabricated" thought emerges in your mind about someone or something, take a deep breath… stop , observe the "ready made" thought that comes from your memory and choose your next creation, your next thought…

Quality Transformation

Quality transformers can be compared to the oyster. When a tiny foreign particle invades (enters) the oyster’s home, it secretes a liquid that combines with the particle to finally create a pearl.
The pearl can live in the oyster's home for the rest of the oyster's natural life without causing any disturbance.

In the same way, rather than react negatively to people and events, we can accept them and mould with them. Through thoughts of acceptance and power, our consciousness jumps to another level of perception and we realise that what we might have previously regarded as a problem can, if handled correctly, be a means to develop our strengths and remove our weaknesses.

We will realise that a problem or can in fact be a gift : it all depends on our perception of the experience. The choice is ours and not anyone else's…at the end of the day we all have to live with ourselves...!

Exercise in silence
Have some quality time for yourself and make your silence creative by noticing all those "problems" that come in order to become your… pearls.
Remaining detached from the external form of the situation let me ask myself:

- What message / quality is hidden behind the external name & form?

- Which internal power should I develop so that I can stay uninfluenced?

- Where will I draw that power from?

- Which pearl do I still deprive myself of?

Detached observer

The “safety valve” of the self is detachment and observation. It helps the self to maintain a stage of equanimity for good or for bad situations, for praise and defamation. No matter what happens there is a benefit in everything.

Observer and... actor

Finding and keeping our balance
We have the inner ability to observe or to become involved with others whenever we want. We balance between our roles as observers and as participants. We play our role either in the audience or as actors on the field of action.
Very often we are so drawn by the roles of others that we are sucked into their emotional dramas. We get so caught up in the 'play' that we loose the valuable distance. 

It is at this point that the creation of our life slips out of our hands... this habit exhausts us by wasting valuable spiritual energy... how do we know this? Let me be introspective... I have a loss of concentration and control of my thoughts. I am disconnected from my inner peace, I forget my true nature and I make mistakes. Then we search again to reach this inner state of truth, because nothing true is ever lost...

Stability amidst turmoil

We often use the words 'difficult' or 'turmoil' for situations that happen 'out there'. How objective is this judgment? Two persons may be facing the same situation and the one feels that 'nothing's new' while the other feels that it is very negative... So is the situation negative or are we negative...?

Situation
When we face negative situations our mind is the first to get influenced. The screen of our mind is getting filled with question marks and chaotic thoughts and soon we feel unstable... We cannot control our inner energy and thus it becomes destructive: thoughts and feelings, our invaluable inner resources are being wasted without our realizing...
Happiness seems so far away...
...because of this inner turmoil we forget that the reins still remain in our hands and that we can still transform our inner state. So we miss the chance and negativity overpowers us...