Who is forming me ?

Forming externally...
Let us observe how many things we do depend on how others see us: our wife or husband, our children, parents, boss, colleagues etc. Imagine all these people in the same room as us... how would will we really feel?

From 0 to 100 what percentage of coolness would you feel? The remaining percentage belongs to Mr. Fear which is the 'beloved' son of Mrs Attachment.   
What do we mean by attachment... We imagine how the others see us and our whole life is filtered through their eyes and hearts and so we forge a character of which they can be proud and satisfied... according to how the perceive us being 'one of them'.

...and then there comes a day ... and within only a moment you say: "What a shame... and I did so much for you...". And then, after 3 days you say "OK I forgive you... it's ok... let's forget it" . But again after 10 days the same story and life goes on between the two extremes: of pity and anger...

Observer and... actor

Finding and keeping our balance
We have the inner ability to observe or to become involved with others whenever we want. We balance between our roles as observers and as participants. We play our role either in the audience or as actors on the field of action.
Very often we are so drawn by the roles of others that we are sucked into their emotional dramas. We get so caught up in the 'play' that we loose the valuable distance. 

It is at this point that the creation of our life slips out of our hands... this habit exhausts us by wasting valuable spiritual energy... how do we know this? Let me be introspective... I have a loss of concentration and control of my thoughts. I am disconnected from my inner peace, I forget my true nature and I make mistakes. Then we search again to reach this inner state of truth, because nothing true is ever lost...