Detached Observer

Where the intellect is free from assumptions 
the right decisions are made

Situation
As soon as we are faced with a situation we directly correlate it to some previous incident and make assumptions based on our past experiences about the situations or the people involved. Such assumptions sometimes lead us to wrong decisions.

Soulution
The solution lies in detaching ourselves from our past experiences. Of course we have to learn from the experiences of our past, but we also need to be open to look at the situation in a new way. Such detachment will enable us to make the right decision.

Detachment is a special quality of the human soul. It activates the faculty of the intellect which is connected to judgment, discernment and decision making. The intellect is empowered through pause, silence, a self respecting dialogue with the self or through reflection, and thus all the clarity that is needed is released.

Exercise
Today, just before a "prefabricated" thought emerges in your mind about someone or something, take a deep breath… stop , observe the "ready made" thought that comes from your memory and choose your next creation, your next thought…

The habit of fear

In our way to completeness, we sometimes live with fear which sometimes may be obvious and other times it remains well hidden behind innocent and quite logical expressions… words that repeat, such as: 'right' 'unfair' 'all' 'them' 'noone' 'honestly' 'always' 'never' 'realistically', are used when we want to avoid our responsibility, so we say something while we mean and feel something else.

The expressions that follow may be appropriate, true and fair enough when we are using them with honesty, but our fear-based motives hide many times what we really mean.

Fortunately for us and for the others around us, life is destined to uncover and expose our fears in a very natural way…life is destined to expose them to the light.

Type of Fears and the Expressions we use

Fear of the unknown

"let's be sensible... many things can happen… look what happened to Michael..." "...it takes time" ....."we must plan everything well  and be very thorough... otherwise everything will  just be up in the air...", "I don't function that way"

Fear of solitude

"we all need someone...", "I can't leave her, we've been through so many things...",
"a relationship is something that is alive, every real relationship has some tension; it's normal; let us be realistic"
Thus we sustain relationships based on fear of losing and we end up filling ourselves with possessiveness, codependency and finally with sorrow...:
"...which is something normal and it sometimes makes things interesting..." we admit many times to our friends...

Fear of 'others' or of cooperation with others

"they are not fond of me; I'm sure... you should see how they were looking at me the other day..."
"it's always more effective to cooperate with one person, maximum..." "I'm more effective when I'm on my own..."

Time for the right…diet

Situation

When we are faced with a difficult situation we might try to make our mind positive at that time, but we usually find it very difficult to do so…and it really is! Then a mantra "it's hard, it's hard…" conquers the mind and becomes a thought-pattern. Our focus goes to our own or others' defects and weaknesses which then grow stronger inside us. Our vision towards life becomes limited and hopeless… we often call this "realism"

When our intellect is pulled by something, we become the embodiment of it… just like the soul enters the body and gives it life, in the same way when we tune into a defect we bring it to life: it's like a mask which covers our face that others notice immediately. We may deny it because we are sometimes unaware of it or we may label it as something else… "me angry?…nooo, it's just the tone of my voice…". Our reaction to the situation is a signal that our intellect is getting weaker because… it is not getting the right nourishment…

Soulution

In order to overcome our weaknesses we need to feed our intellect with light and might. Then the power that we want at that time will emerge naturally during our daily… 'test papers'. By feeding our intellect, the home of our consciousness, not just with positive thoughts but also with experiences of truth, it will help us be the embodiment of power at the time of need… automatically. Like a master we'll be able to evoke our inner powers and be free from 'trying' to change negative into positive.

observer or ...absorber

Situation

Before I reactively deny it, let me observe deep within if the opinion I have about myself is based on what others see or believe about me and especially the important ones for me.

We usually find our thoughts being swayed by whatever we hear from others about us. The moment I stop observing and start reacting to what they say, I feel the look in my eyes changing… it is a sign that my heart has started believing all those things. It is a sign that I've lost the seat of being the detached observer and I have become the…absorber.

In a short time I have adopted a foreign opinion about myself…

Soulution

...independently of how many foreign views I have adopted about myself there's one that exists within me eternally and is the true one.  And if I have forgotten how is it to believe in the self and in this little inner voice that guides me, it doesn't matter … this voice hasn't forgotten me. It remains and waits for me to remember it. Because it is the only thing within me that is eternal, it is imperishable; all other things are artificial constructions of the human mind, "approaches" or "analyses" or "ideas" and as every artificial thing… they have an expiry date.

Reflection... the real "digestive" for every day-life

Reflection is an exercise of the mind and intellect that goes into the depths of understanding an idea, or realization, or point of knowledge with the aim of practicing it in daily life.

Values… in action is a sign that knowledge has been… digested; without this, knowledge simply remains a beautiful aspect, appreciated, interesting information in my intellect but without the ability to give me strength because it is still external; it has not been internalised.

spiritual power: the ability of the soul to remain unaffected by negativity... the ability of the soul to be heard by itself when it claims inside : "…alright … now… remain peaceful…" ... we all comply with the powerful ones anyway…

All quality action (quality action is that action which is truly appropriate to person, circumstance and the need of the moment), all newness of perception (understanding), all new insights, or vision, require a space for silent reflection as a preliminary step.
Normally, the known thief , Mrs. Action Nonstopson, the administrative head of the "Ritual-Routine Life-time S.A", buys our valuable awareness for hay …

… boredom, routine, new expectations, dissatisfaction and... new promises …"no doubt my friend… after this project I will be peaceful"

A mind and intellect that do not give time and attention to reflective silence (meditation) become spiritually lazy…

spiritual laziness : No new heights are reached because there is no depth of awareness in what we are doing, no reflection on purpose. Externally there may be lots of activity and creativity for hours and hours, but the soul is incapable to stabilise and tune in to its inherent peace and happiness.

The soul cannot transform a thought into experience.

…as result… we get trapped by routine.

To daily break free from this force, to relieve the mind of the weight of stress and waste and routine, I need to step inside and reflect (think) on who I am and where I am going and reassess my value system, bring it into life into the moment...

"what am I..?" "what is my true nature ?" "what are my values…? if I have forgotten them and I'm fighting against life once again… le me remember these values by emerging them right now into my awareness…... peace... purity... love... happiness... wisdom...I'm a being of light... a living point of peace... I emanate goodness and benefit…I'm love…

I'm love in motion…..."

... few seconds every hour is enough to bring me back from forgetfulness... so that I can stop the wheel of routine and start the wheel of my real happiness… it's a choice