Detached Observer

Where the intellect is free from assumptions 
the right decisions are made

Situation
As soon as we are faced with a situation we directly correlate it to some previous incident and make assumptions based on our past experiences about the situations or the people involved. Such assumptions sometimes lead us to wrong decisions.

Soulution
The solution lies in detaching ourselves from our past experiences. Of course we have to learn from the experiences of our past, but we also need to be open to look at the situation in a new way. Such detachment will enable us to make the right decision.

Detachment is a special quality of the human soul. It activates the faculty of the intellect which is connected to judgment, discernment and decision making. The intellect is empowered through pause, silence, a self respecting dialogue with the self or through reflection, and thus all the clarity that is needed is released.

Exercise
Today, just before a "prefabricated" thought emerges in your mind about someone or something, take a deep breath… stop , observe the "ready made" thought that comes from your memory and choose your next creation, your next thought…

Detached observer

The “safety valve” of the self is detachment and observation. It helps the self to maintain a stage of equanimity for good or for bad situations, for praise and defamation. No matter what happens there is a benefit in everything.

Observer and... actor

Finding and keeping our balance
We have the inner ability to observe or to become involved with others whenever we want. We balance between our roles as observers and as participants. We play our role either in the audience or as actors on the field of action.
Very often we are so drawn by the roles of others that we are sucked into their emotional dramas. We get so caught up in the 'play' that we loose the valuable distance. 

It is at this point that the creation of our life slips out of our hands... this habit exhausts us by wasting valuable spiritual energy... how do we know this? Let me be introspective... I have a loss of concentration and control of my thoughts. I am disconnected from my inner peace, I forget my true nature and I make mistakes. Then we search again to reach this inner state of truth, because nothing true is ever lost...

Stability amidst turmoil

We often use the words 'difficult' or 'turmoil' for situations that happen 'out there'. How objective is this judgment? Two persons may be facing the same situation and the one feels that 'nothing's new' while the other feels that it is very negative... So is the situation negative or are we negative...?

Situation
When we face negative situations our mind is the first to get influenced. The screen of our mind is getting filled with question marks and chaotic thoughts and soon we feel unstable... We cannot control our inner energy and thus it becomes destructive: thoughts and feelings, our invaluable inner resources are being wasted without our realizing...
Happiness seems so far away...
...because of this inner turmoil we forget that the reins still remain in our hands and that we can still transform our inner state. So we miss the chance and negativity overpowers us...  

observer or ...absorber

Situation

Before I reactively deny it, let me observe deep within if the opinion I have about myself is based on what others see or believe about me and especially the important ones for me.

We usually find our thoughts being swayed by whatever we hear from others about us. The moment I stop observing and start reacting to what they say, I feel the look in my eyes changing… it is a sign that my heart has started believing all those things. It is a sign that I've lost the seat of being the detached observer and I have become the…absorber.

In a short time I have adopted a foreign opinion about myself…

Soulution

...independently of how many foreign views I have adopted about myself there's one that exists within me eternally and is the true one.  And if I have forgotten how is it to believe in the self and in this little inner voice that guides me, it doesn't matter … this voice hasn't forgotten me. It remains and waits for me to remember it. Because it is the only thing within me that is eternal, it is imperishable; all other things are artificial constructions of the human mind, "approaches" or "analyses" or "ideas" and as every artificial thing… they have an expiry date.