Detached Observer

Where the intellect is free from assumptions 
the right decisions are made

Situation
As soon as we are faced with a situation we directly correlate it to some previous incident and make assumptions based on our past experiences about the situations or the people involved. Such assumptions sometimes lead us to wrong decisions.

Soulution
The solution lies in detaching ourselves from our past experiences. Of course we have to learn from the experiences of our past, but we also need to be open to look at the situation in a new way. Such detachment will enable us to make the right decision.

Detachment is a special quality of the human soul. It activates the faculty of the intellect which is connected to judgment, discernment and decision making. The intellect is empowered through pause, silence, a self respecting dialogue with the self or through reflection, and thus all the clarity that is needed is released.

Exercise
Today, just before a "prefabricated" thought emerges in your mind about someone or something, take a deep breath… stop , observe the "ready made" thought that comes from your memory and choose your next creation, your next thought…

What's the 'recipe' for a solution...?

Problems
Let's look at a 'recipe' for a problem...:

• Take a difficult situation and keep churning it in your mind...
• ...the more you churn the heavier it becomes ...
• Spice it up by adding some appropriate adjectives, 'terrible','unfair', 'wrong', ...
• Add some 'guilt' and a hint of 'victimization'...
• (Adding old problems intensifies the 'flavour'...)
• Put aside for a while to rest and rise after adding some 'excuses' and 'blame'.
• Take the 'mixture' and empty into a mould of your choice.
• Bake in a hot oven of 'anger' and 'bitter memories' and serve hot or cold to your 'friends'.
• It goes with tea or coffee and mainly with 'good' conversations about 'recipes' for other problems.

Bon appetite...