The habit of fear

In our way to completeness, we sometimes live with fear which sometimes may be obvious and other times it remains well hidden behind innocent and quite logical expressions… words that repeat, such as: 'right' 'unfair' 'all' 'them' 'noone' 'honestly' 'always' 'never' 'realistically', are used when we want to avoid our responsibility, so we say something while we mean and feel something else.

The expressions that follow may be appropriate, true and fair enough when we are using them with honesty, but our fear-based motives hide many times what we really mean.

Fortunately for us and for the others around us, life is destined to uncover and expose our fears in a very natural way…life is destined to expose them to the light.

Type of Fears and the Expressions we use

Fear of the unknown

"let's be sensible... many things can happen… look what happened to Michael..." "...it takes time" ....."we must plan everything well  and be very thorough... otherwise everything will  just be up in the air...", "I don't function that way"

Fear of solitude

"we all need someone...", "I can't leave her, we've been through so many things...",
"a relationship is something that is alive, every real relationship has some tension; it's normal; let us be realistic"
Thus we sustain relationships based on fear of losing and we end up filling ourselves with possessiveness, codependency and finally with sorrow...:
"...which is something normal and it sometimes makes things interesting..." we admit many times to our friends...

Fear of 'others' or of cooperation with others

"they are not fond of me; I'm sure... you should see how they were looking at me the other day..."
"it's always more effective to cooperate with one person, maximum..." "I'm more effective when I'm on my own..."

My self-respect and my... audience

Self-respect is the experience of my internal goodness and beauty…

…without an audience 

Situation

Sometimes when we contribute positively to a situation we have the subtle expectation of recognition and respect for what we have done… usually these are the times when we don't receive this recognition and we end up feeling disheartened; this in turn, blocks us from expressing our fullest potential…

   

Soulution

Let me turn inside and look in the mirror of my heart… where does this disappointment originate from? The reason we feel like this lies inside… the trigger might be somewhere out there but the reason lies inside and originates from a condition we have put on our happiness: "I need someone to witness my deeds… I need a spectator to applaud my role …"

 }By shifting my consciousness within , I withdraw my attention away from the audience and bring it back to its original position : I recognize my specialities and respect them by expressing them fully… irrespective of applause

 }By returning my attention to its natural seat, my self respect returns, naturally

Exercise: Τraffic Control

Measure your self-respect during the day:

1. How do I feel by not having a witness to my existence?

2. Do I have the power to exist and to share without being seen or heard?

Use the following exercise to bring your attention to its natural point. There's no need to close your eyes, or to stop your activities...

I withdraw my attention from everything around me and I concentrate on a point, high in the centre of my forehead…just behind my eyes…this is my original position and… where my attention goes, the energy flows… "I, the soul, am the eternal observer… I am a being of light… I am a point of energy emanating my virtues… my physical body gives me the opportunity to live in space and time… but the body is not who I am… I look through these eyes and express myself through this body… I am the charioteer of this vehicle… I am a peaceful soul… I perform all  my roles with care and purity… without expectations… My true beauty lies within me and I express it peacefully …”