The Language of Silence

As everything external becomes more and more noisy we need to become more and more quiet and deep. We need to learn and use the language that every soul understands, that is not the language of words, but the language of peace and light.

Observer and... actor

Finding and keeping our balance
We have the inner ability to observe or to become involved with others whenever we want. We balance between our roles as observers and as participants. We play our role either in the audience or as actors on the field of action.
Very often we are so drawn by the roles of others that we are sucked into their emotional dramas. We get so caught up in the 'play' that we loose the valuable distance. 

It is at this point that the creation of our life slips out of our hands... this habit exhausts us by wasting valuable spiritual energy... how do we know this? Let me be introspective... I have a loss of concentration and control of my thoughts. I am disconnected from my inner peace, I forget my true nature and I make mistakes. Then we search again to reach this inner state of truth, because nothing true is ever lost...

The mythology of love

Situation

Sometimes we do find ourselves in situations where others are not responding to the love we are giving. Our feelings seem to hit a rock or a wall and don't bounce back as respect and understanding.

Having the habit of 'give and take' deep instilled in our consciousness, the absence of any feedback leaves us insecure and ... we decide to go to other side of complaining and blaming; the side of instant or long-term hate: "Am I not worth it?..." "you are supposed to..." "you had to..." "I have the right..." "you show no respect...  you have become a bit senseless these days..."

True respect and true love are both very elevated states of consciousness and cannot be achieved in any external way. It is impossible to pursue or inspire someone's respect even if this someone is your self... you may achieve it but it won't last for long. On the other hand a high state of consciousness is not something out of reach... this is our eternal right and not the forced respect from others.

We need to experience a shift of consciousness inside our selves first if we want to see it around us.

The habit of fear

In our way to completeness, we sometimes live with fear which sometimes may be obvious and other times it remains well hidden behind innocent and quite logical expressions… words that repeat, such as: 'right' 'unfair' 'all' 'them' 'noone' 'honestly' 'always' 'never' 'realistically', are used when we want to avoid our responsibility, so we say something while we mean and feel something else.

The expressions that follow may be appropriate, true and fair enough when we are using them with honesty, but our fear-based motives hide many times what we really mean.

Fortunately for us and for the others around us, life is destined to uncover and expose our fears in a very natural way…life is destined to expose them to the light.

Type of Fears and the Expressions we use

Fear of the unknown

"let's be sensible... many things can happen… look what happened to Michael..." "...it takes time" ....."we must plan everything well  and be very thorough... otherwise everything will  just be up in the air...", "I don't function that way"

Fear of solitude

"we all need someone...", "I can't leave her, we've been through so many things...",
"a relationship is something that is alive, every real relationship has some tension; it's normal; let us be realistic"
Thus we sustain relationships based on fear of losing and we end up filling ourselves with possessiveness, codependency and finally with sorrow...:
"...which is something normal and it sometimes makes things interesting..." we admit many times to our friends...

Fear of 'others' or of cooperation with others

"they are not fond of me; I'm sure... you should see how they were looking at me the other day..."
"it's always more effective to cooperate with one person, maximum..." "I'm more effective when I'm on my own..."

Time for the right…diet

Situation

When we are faced with a difficult situation we might try to make our mind positive at that time, but we usually find it very difficult to do so…and it really is! Then a mantra "it's hard, it's hard…" conquers the mind and becomes a thought-pattern. Our focus goes to our own or others' defects and weaknesses which then grow stronger inside us. Our vision towards life becomes limited and hopeless… we often call this "realism"

When our intellect is pulled by something, we become the embodiment of it… just like the soul enters the body and gives it life, in the same way when we tune into a defect we bring it to life: it's like a mask which covers our face that others notice immediately. We may deny it because we are sometimes unaware of it or we may label it as something else… "me angry?…nooo, it's just the tone of my voice…". Our reaction to the situation is a signal that our intellect is getting weaker because… it is not getting the right nourishment…

Soulution

In order to overcome our weaknesses we need to feed our intellect with light and might. Then the power that we want at that time will emerge naturally during our daily… 'test papers'. By feeding our intellect, the home of our consciousness, not just with positive thoughts but also with experiences of truth, it will help us be the embodiment of power at the time of need… automatically. Like a master we'll be able to evoke our inner powers and be free from 'trying' to change negative into positive.

The light of dawn always comes right after the deepest darkness

Situation
When things seem to go wrong or not exactly as we've planned, we feel that the situation colours us. Our enthusiasm dries up and we unconsciously start painting our thoughts with the colour of the situation; everything seems dark and gloomy and we see no light at the end of the tunnel…

}We keep recycling with perfect concentration all the negativity that even the best yogis & yoginis  would be jealous of :
Not even one luminous thought can enter our dark “meditation"... We would even be able to convince everyone in our meditation class that "it's impossible for me to concentrate… it's so difficult… it’s my nature…I’ve always been like this … it's in my genes…"  

Luckily concentration, along with other spiritual powers, is absolutely natural for all souls and we don't need to learn how to do it...

"Techniques" or "tricks" can take us only so far…   honest exploration and love for what I concentrate on are enough... 

My self-respect and my... audience

Self-respect is the experience of my internal goodness and beauty…

…without an audience 

Situation

Sometimes when we contribute positively to a situation we have the subtle expectation of recognition and respect for what we have done… usually these are the times when we don't receive this recognition and we end up feeling disheartened; this in turn, blocks us from expressing our fullest potential…

   

Soulution

Let me turn inside and look in the mirror of my heart… where does this disappointment originate from? The reason we feel like this lies inside… the trigger might be somewhere out there but the reason lies inside and originates from a condition we have put on our happiness: "I need someone to witness my deeds… I need a spectator to applaud my role …"

 }By shifting my consciousness within , I withdraw my attention away from the audience and bring it back to its original position : I recognize my specialities and respect them by expressing them fully… irrespective of applause

 }By returning my attention to its natural seat, my self respect returns, naturally

Exercise: Τraffic Control

Measure your self-respect during the day:

1. How do I feel by not having a witness to my existence?

2. Do I have the power to exist and to share without being seen or heard?

Use the following exercise to bring your attention to its natural point. There's no need to close your eyes, or to stop your activities...

I withdraw my attention from everything around me and I concentrate on a point, high in the centre of my forehead…just behind my eyes…this is my original position and… where my attention goes, the energy flows… "I, the soul, am the eternal observer… I am a being of light… I am a point of energy emanating my virtues… my physical body gives me the opportunity to live in space and time… but the body is not who I am… I look through these eyes and express myself through this body… I am the charioteer of this vehicle… I am a peaceful soul… I perform all  my roles with care and purity… without expectations… My true beauty lies within me and I express it peacefully …”