My principles

When my principles are very deeply rooted inside me, I will follow them no matter what the situations are or what others do. I will never have the expectation that others should also accept, respect and follow them.

Controlling Power

The more control we have over ourselves and our lives, the happier and freer we will feel:

Example
A simple example is when we are drinking a glass of water: we move our hands, we turn on the tap, we fill up the glass, we direct it to our mouth, we drink this invaluable liquid and thus we quench our thirst. Our body 'smiles back at us'... 
This is a simple example of controlling matter and being part of a game. This sense of control over matter doesn't mean exploitation rather something that is pure: interaction.  

But...
...we sometimes get angry with situations or other people. Why does this happen? We have the 'logical' expectation that all of our thoughts, desires and directions should manifest in this game of interaction around us... for many reasons though, this is not always possible especially when it concerns other people too... and even if it is possible it doesn't last...

Sometimes, the simple expectation that a person should behave as we want them to is in itself an attempt to control them. When we try to control another person, which is impossible, we are bound to fail, feel frustrated and stressed. Thus, we lose spiritual energy and feel exhausted which comes back as anger towards those we try to control or other people that are 'easier' for us...

This is the magic moment in which I can ask myself: "What kind of control do I truly need in order for me to be really happy?" We are capable of having power over ourselves; we can be more responsible for our thoughts and feelings. We have the capacity to choose the quality of our response to different situations and people that we come across in our lives, whatever the outcome.
If we do not exercise much control over our thoughts and emotions, we easily fall into the tendency of seeing ourselves as victimized, and we blame others, making them responsible in our own minds for how we feel. When we do this, we are forgetting that we are the creators of our own thoughts. When this happens, we are handing over the control of our thoughts to those who influence, criticize, attack or slander us.


If we want to recover control over our life, we must learn to control our thoughts and feelings and not blame anyone else for them. The more self-control we have over ourselves, the less will we want to control others and our capacity to influence other people positively will be greater.

By feeling victims we build walls around our heart keeping life and our 'enemies' outside... we become more and more cynical which we cover under the words 'maturing process' or becoming more 'experienced' or 'realistic'...

Exercise of Self Control
The more we turn inward for gaining control the more we will feel content and rejuvenated. In order to fulfill my need for control in a healthy way I need to have 'spiritual gymnastics': mind and heart exercises by practicing meditation.
By being a systematic spiritual effort maker I can empower my mind and my heart and thus I gain trust for myself and my life. During meditation I create simple thoughts and emerge feelings which replenish me and empower the circulation of spiritual energy within me. I will need less and less to impose my will on others or try to ‘control situations’ externally - on the contrary, I will have more power to affect others positively. 

It's a matter of power, and for power we need healthy 'spiritual nutrition' and systematic exercise...

Real Freedom

Real freedom is not to expect anything from anyone, even from God. Expectation brings dissatisfaction, criticism, and even anger. When I am able to connect to my original self and to the Supreme Source of energy, I feel complete and absolutely contented. Knowing that I am already given all I could wish for, expectations and desires disappear. .

The mythology of love

Situation

Sometimes we do find ourselves in situations where others are not responding to the love we are giving. Our feelings seem to hit a rock or a wall and don't bounce back as respect and understanding.

Having the habit of 'give and take' deep instilled in our consciousness, the absence of any feedback leaves us insecure and ... we decide to go to other side of complaining and blaming; the side of instant or long-term hate: "Am I not worth it?..." "you are supposed to..." "you had to..." "I have the right..." "you show no respect...  you have become a bit senseless these days..."

True respect and true love are both very elevated states of consciousness and cannot be achieved in any external way. It is impossible to pursue or inspire someone's respect even if this someone is your self... you may achieve it but it won't last for long. On the other hand a high state of consciousness is not something out of reach... this is our eternal right and not the forced respect from others.

We need to experience a shift of consciousness inside our selves first if we want to see it around us.

Pleasure or happiness?

Anger enters when real Contentment goes away...

Situation
When we don't get what we want or others won't do what we expect them to do, we become disappointed and we are afraid that…

When contentment is not present we've developed some acquired behaviours for achieving it… one of these is anger. It is not however the natural state of a soul because no one really wants to be angry and this is  why afterwards we regret it but ,we just unconsciously let ourselves go down the easy way; the easy way of external projection of everything that is missing inside… thus we miss happiness…

So, trying to do away with anger without actually knowing the real reason for it doesn't work.

}Have you ever heard anyone saying: "Well I'm going on holiday for 2 weeks… I'm really looking forward to quarrelling with everyone…(?) "

Soulution

The moment we feel the attraction of anger for someone or something, it is the right moment (?) for our spiritual evolution , the gateway to a new and beautiful part of our self is being unlocked !

It's the time to draw new curves into my character...

..let me check the real reason for my anger…the truth always lies deeper than the superficial triggers… true reasons are always less obvious than the many forms of the external triggering situations or people... thus I get deceived.

...yes , it’s true they were late again but why do I hold on  to my expectations… yes ,it is yet another occasion where they haven’t shown  respect for my time but why do I keep demanding  that other people understand what "time management is"… yes, again I'm angry with myself but maybe I'm too demanding by expecting to control my anger from the very first anger "management" workshop…!

Where does love go when we no longer feel it?

As human beings we have the capacity to connect at four levels – physical, mental, intellectual and the spiritual. "let's shake hands… you are absolutely right..."

"hey, can you believe it? I was just thinking of you!" ... 

"I understand what you are going through..." ... or in moments of high awareness: "..yes, I feel that you understand me although you totally disagree…. and I'm glad that we can get along despite our differences " ...

When loving energy is clear of external limitations, likes & dislikes, expectations, patterns, images and senses … ideas and thoughts … When this energy is clear of our own or others' emotions, then the soul breaks the barriers of attraction and repulsion and reaches the heights of spiritual love, with clarity and knowledge in the heart...

Knowledge and clarity are two essential elements of true love because it is far more than an emotion… it's an awareness, a state of consciousness of the soul … an experience beyond external stimulus.

True love comes along with the awareness that I'm a soul and I consider others to be souls also; I'm a point of living energy in the world of time & matter…rather than "a combined psychosomatic entity… or matter that needed time to develop consciousness" or "a body with a soul and me (?) "

As long as this courageous awareness stays within us, "I am a peaceful soul, I am love…", there will be a flow of love with-in and with-out me.

Actually, there's only one love… but our "filters" make it seem like many types…

The archetype of eternal love that all souls are searching for through their filters is also one…and it's constantly and eternally emerged and emitted by the purest soul in the whole universe…

…Love is not an impersonal type of energy that we just tap into... 'love is in the air' but someone should feel it in order to exist in air...

The supreme soul, our universal parent, through his/her constant "being", emanates eternal Love and he/she is love's unshakable guardian… stay tuned … although it might not be obvious, this is the Age when it is raining Love…!

…to contemplate on

1. Can a soul who doesn't have his "own" children have the experience of maternal or paternal love?
2. Is it the eyes that see or the soul? Are we limited by our eyes to feel love?