Situation
Sometimes we do find ourselves in situations where others are not responding to the love we are giving. Our feelings seem to hit a rock or a wall and don't bounce back as respect and understanding.Having the habit of 'give and take' deep instilled in our consciousness, the absence of any feedback leaves us insecure and ... we decide to go to other side of complaining and blaming; the side of instant or long-term hate: "Am I not worth it?..." "you are supposed to..." "you had to..." "I have the right..." "you show no respect... you have become a bit senseless these days..."True respect and true love are both very elevated states of consciousness and cannot be achieved in any external way. It is impossible to pursue or inspire someone's respect even if this someone is your self... you may achieve it but it won't last for long. On the other hand a high state of consciousness is not something out of reach... this is our eternal right and not the forced respect from others.
We need to experience a shift of consciousness inside our selves first if we want to see it around us.
Discerning
How can we then be sure that this thing that we feel is true love and pure respect and not 'conventional love' or 'give and take' type respect?
We can check and change the cleanliness of our feelings; if we feel resentment or frustration we need to realize that something pure and clean would never leave a bad taste.
A limited love which expects and demands is a selfish 'love' and cannot give us real contentment neither can it touch the original part of others. It is a 'love' that has been given out of fear, loneliness and need of approval. Such a 'respect' has always its opposite... resentment and reaction.
Connecting
It is necessary to remind ourselves how real love and respect feel like. They are not philosophical terms for discussion and debate... they are feelings that need to be felt in the present moment. The good part is that we 'are' these feelings already:
We can realize this truth and short breaks for contemplation can be very helpful in this. Those moments of inner attention help us connect easily with our inner truth.
With one thought let me connect with my inner peace… let me connect with my inner space of truth… the original part of me the soul…I go beyond the influence of external situations or my artificial needs… I go deeper into the experience of true love as my original state of being…beyond 'give and take'…I don't have love for (…) I am love… I am a loving being… I radiate loving vibrations all around me like a lighthouse…dispelling the darkness, I let myself shine like a shining star…I remain in this awareness of true love… true light…
