In our way to completeness, we sometimes live with fear which sometimes may be obvious and other times it remains well hidden behind innocent and quite logical expressions… words that repeat, such as: 'right' 'unfair' 'all' 'them' 'noone' 'honestly' 'always' 'never' 'realistically', are used when we want to avoid our responsibility, so we say something while we mean and feel something else.
The expressions that follow may be appropriate, true and fair enough when we are using them with honesty, but our fear-based motives hide many times what we really mean.
Fortunately for us and for the others around us, life is destined to uncover and expose our fears in a very natural way…life is destined to expose them to the light.
Type of Fears and the Expressions we use
Fear of the unknown
"let's be sensible... many things can happen… look what happened to Michael..." "...it takes time" ....."we must plan everything well and be very thorough... otherwise everything will just be up in the air...", "I don't function that way"Fear of solitude
"we all need someone...", "I can't leave her, we've been through so many things...","a relationship is something that is alive, every real relationship has some tension; it's normal; let us be realistic"
Thus we sustain relationships based on fear of losing and we end up filling ourselves with possessiveness, codependency and finally with sorrow...:
"...which is something normal and it sometimes makes things interesting..." we admit many times to our friends...
Fear of 'others' or of cooperation with others
"they are not fond of me; I'm sure... you should see how they were looking at me the other day...""it's always more effective to cooperate with one person, maximum..." "I'm more effective when I'm on my own..."
