The mythology of love

Situation

Sometimes we do find ourselves in situations where others are not responding to the love we are giving. Our feelings seem to hit a rock or a wall and don't bounce back as respect and understanding.

Having the habit of 'give and take' deep instilled in our consciousness, the absence of any feedback leaves us insecure and ... we decide to go to other side of complaining and blaming; the side of instant or long-term hate: "Am I not worth it?..." "you are supposed to..." "you had to..." "I have the right..." "you show no respect...  you have become a bit senseless these days..."

True respect and true love are both very elevated states of consciousness and cannot be achieved in any external way. It is impossible to pursue or inspire someone's respect even if this someone is your self... you may achieve it but it won't last for long. On the other hand a high state of consciousness is not something out of reach... this is our eternal right and not the forced respect from others.

We need to experience a shift of consciousness inside our selves first if we want to see it around us.

The habit of fear

In our way to completeness, we sometimes live with fear which sometimes may be obvious and other times it remains well hidden behind innocent and quite logical expressions… words that repeat, such as: 'right' 'unfair' 'all' 'them' 'noone' 'honestly' 'always' 'never' 'realistically', are used when we want to avoid our responsibility, so we say something while we mean and feel something else.

The expressions that follow may be appropriate, true and fair enough when we are using them with honesty, but our fear-based motives hide many times what we really mean.

Fortunately for us and for the others around us, life is destined to uncover and expose our fears in a very natural way…life is destined to expose them to the light.

Type of Fears and the Expressions we use

Fear of the unknown

"let's be sensible... many things can happen… look what happened to Michael..." "...it takes time" ....."we must plan everything well  and be very thorough... otherwise everything will  just be up in the air...", "I don't function that way"

Fear of solitude

"we all need someone...", "I can't leave her, we've been through so many things...",
"a relationship is something that is alive, every real relationship has some tension; it's normal; let us be realistic"
Thus we sustain relationships based on fear of losing and we end up filling ourselves with possessiveness, codependency and finally with sorrow...:
"...which is something normal and it sometimes makes things interesting..." we admit many times to our friends...

Fear of 'others' or of cooperation with others

"they are not fond of me; I'm sure... you should see how they were looking at me the other day..."
"it's always more effective to cooperate with one person, maximum..." "I'm more effective when I'm on my own..."

getting impressed... getting depressed

Getting impressed. Is it beneficial?

If we want to sustain our self-respect then our intellect needs our special care. The intellect is such a sensitive filter of the soul, that emotions can blind it. When  the intellect(often referred to as the third eye),  is blinded we start over-estimating or under-estimating others or situations: see illusion.

And if words seem to impress us easily then it's words that will hurt us very easily...

}Whatever impresses or depresses us, influences  and even moulds our awareness at that moment. We lose the invaluable ability to create our own thoughts and feelings and these are influenced by the impression that we have allowed the other person to leave on the sensitive film of our heart.

Sometimes the impression or depression is such that we completely give ourselves over to it. We give up our power to others, and we allow them to dominate our emotional world; we become emotional hostages.  The results of allowing oneself to be impressed are varied and on different levels.

Examples

For example, when we are impressed by the other's position; it is fine to respect the authority and the position of the other, but when we allow their position to impress us, our ability to relate to the person in a subtle way is blocked. This can make it difficult for us to be an authority in our own life… it's easy to understand that disappointment would naturally follow

Another example is when we are impressed by the achievements of the other and put them on a pedestal… so that they become unreachable. We compare ourselves to him or her and have weak thoughts of ourselves, such as  we are not as good or effective as them, or we might feel jealousy or guilt. All of this acts as an obstacle on the path towards our own achievement.

Creative stress (?)

The Mythology of Stress (cont.)

There are some myths about stress that hide the real inner work that has to be done:

Myth ΙΙ:
"Small quantities of stress have been proved beneficial because they boost our creativity "

Truth: At present stress (fear of failure) and other emotions have coloured the soul to such an extent that we have forgotten how it is to feel our natural feelings. While intoxication or alertness by chemical means are in fact desensitization (alcohol, nicotine, drugs) and toxic shock (caffeine), they have entered our culture as bliss and refreshment in the same way that fear and worry have become motivation for creativity and interrest.   

}It is a illusion that stress, or putting pressure on people, is necessary to get things done. Why?

Because when fear (emotional pain) is invoked and used as a motivator, it always results in a drainage of emotional and spiritual energy, which eventually can lead to physical disease.

Time for the right…diet

Situation

When we are faced with a difficult situation we might try to make our mind positive at that time, but we usually find it very difficult to do so…and it really is! Then a mantra "it's hard, it's hard…" conquers the mind and becomes a thought-pattern. Our focus goes to our own or others' defects and weaknesses which then grow stronger inside us. Our vision towards life becomes limited and hopeless… we often call this "realism"

When our intellect is pulled by something, we become the embodiment of it… just like the soul enters the body and gives it life, in the same way when we tune into a defect we bring it to life: it's like a mask which covers our face that others notice immediately. We may deny it because we are sometimes unaware of it or we may label it as something else… "me angry?…nooo, it's just the tone of my voice…". Our reaction to the situation is a signal that our intellect is getting weaker because… it is not getting the right nourishment…

Soulution

In order to overcome our weaknesses we need to feed our intellect with light and might. Then the power that we want at that time will emerge naturally during our daily… 'test papers'. By feeding our intellect, the home of our consciousness, not just with positive thoughts but also with experiences of truth, it will help us be the embodiment of power at the time of need… automatically. Like a master we'll be able to evoke our inner powers and be free from 'trying' to change negative into positive.

Pleasure or happiness?

Anger enters when real Contentment goes away...

Situation
When we don't get what we want or others won't do what we expect them to do, we become disappointed and we are afraid that…

When contentment is not present we've developed some acquired behaviours for achieving it… one of these is anger. It is not however the natural state of a soul because no one really wants to be angry and this is  why afterwards we regret it but ,we just unconsciously let ourselves go down the easy way; the easy way of external projection of everything that is missing inside… thus we miss happiness…

So, trying to do away with anger without actually knowing the real reason for it doesn't work.

}Have you ever heard anyone saying: "Well I'm going on holiday for 2 weeks… I'm really looking forward to quarrelling with everyone…(?) "

Soulution

The moment we feel the attraction of anger for someone or something, it is the right moment (?) for our spiritual evolution , the gateway to a new and beautiful part of our self is being unlocked !

It's the time to draw new curves into my character...

..let me check the real reason for my anger…the truth always lies deeper than the superficial triggers… true reasons are always less obvious than the many forms of the external triggering situations or people... thus I get deceived.

...yes , it’s true they were late again but why do I hold on  to my expectations… yes ,it is yet another occasion where they haven’t shown  respect for my time but why do I keep demanding  that other people understand what "time management is"… yes, again I'm angry with myself but maybe I'm too demanding by expecting to control my anger from the very first anger "management" workshop…!

exhaustion or ...inner change

The Mythology of Stress

There are some myths about stress that prevent us from liberally accessing our resources of true peace:

Myth:
"A change in diet, some exercise and a good break from work will lower your stress levels"

Truths: A change in diet, exercise and a holiday can temporarily ease the symptoms of your stress but they cannot cure you.

A proper diet and physical exercise are some of the basics for our well-being but not … our liberators from stress… Nowadays in every local park you will find thousands of track-suited runners, faces lined in pain, sweat pouring out of breathless bodies, all in the name of balance and relaxation.

…and "peace" is achieved, because after two miles they are absolutely exhausted. Peace is not exhaustion or fatigue. It is the ability to quite your mind anywhere, anytime, and know that your body will follow...

}Peace is eternal, which means is an intrinsic feeling of the soul, is a true feeling and as such it cannot come from something external; we cannot have artificial peace. Fortunately we can connect with peace through the power of our thought and thus dive into the Ocean of Peace.

Going on holiday in the 21st century may still be an adventure; it is still a change of scene, people, food and climate. And change can still (sometimes) be as good as a rest. But really deep down you know that you don't need to go anywhere to rest, relax your mind and replenish your heart.

}You know that wherever you go, you will still be with yourself when you arrive. And what you think, feel and do there is likely to be exactly what you think, feel and do wherever you are now. So your 365day thinking and feeling is what you need to change… we need to transform our self.